It is a taboo to be the spouse of an adult with an autism spectrum disorder / high-functioning autism. 

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This emerges in an article at the website This is a website that aims to provide professional knowledge and personal insight into the challenges facing the neurotypical partner in a relationship with an adult who has an autism spectrum disorder.

They write:

It is a big taboo to be the spouse of an adult with an autism spectrum disorder (AS) / high-functioning autism (Hfa). There is little understanding to be gained from the outside world. The consequences of our partner's invisible developmental disorder can be heavy to bear in loneliness.

As partners of an adult with AS / Hfa, we have a unique knowledge that we can share with each other. No one has greater insight into the bizarre reality of living in a relationship with someone with Asperger's than someone who is in the same situation.

It is our intention that both you, your children and the love between you and your spouse get better terms when we support each other.


Current information about living close with an autistic partner

On the website you will find news and articles about living in a relationship with an autistic partner.

Information is given about common challenges in cohabitation, and you get to read authentic stories about what such cohabitation can entail of joys, sorrows and special challenges.


  1. About living in a relationship with someone who has Asperger's syndrome

    In this video you meet a couple where the husband has Asperger's syndrome, and where this insight has been helpful in understanding the many problems that have characterized the marriage.


  2. The day I found out I have Asperger's syndrome

    In this video, Laurence Mitchell briefly tells his life story - with a lifelong realization that he was different - but where it would take a long time before it was understood that he had Asperger's syndrome. He also talks about how he got married at the age of 29 and how the communication difficulties became the norm in the relationship, and about how the knowledge about Asperger's became crucial to solve these problems better.


  3. Possible to love a spouse with Asperger's syndrome?

    This video tells about common problems in the relationship with someone who has Asperger's, but also about the hope of having a happy marriage characterized by love and understanding.


  4. Help living in a relationship with someone who has Asperger's syndrome

    In this video, 25 tips are given on what can be useful to know about relationships with someone who has Asperger's syndrome.



Discussion forum for you that love someone with autism

Not least, the website has a separate discussion forum, which is reserved for partners of the person living with a person with an autism spectrum disorder, and also children of parents with autism. writes about the forum:

The forum is exclusively for neurotypical (NT) spouses and partners of adults with autism spectrum disorders, including Asperger's and high-functioning autism. Adult children of parents with autism are also welcome.

The forum is NOT for those who have the disorder themselves.

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Ove Heradstveit

Psychologist, specialist in clinical community psychology. PhD.
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